Tuesday, November 2, 2010

Fight For Not Against Your Marriage

First Christian Church, where I pastor, is deeply committed to ministry to the whole family. We have taken on creating a bold future of ministry to families at every stage of life and experience. One of the hardest seasons in life is soon after the wedding, within the first 7 years of marriage. These are the years when a couple is learning about and growing with each other, when careers are often factoring into large life decisions and when children often first come into the picture.

As John Eldredge, author of Wild at Heart, will tell you: You can fake it at work. You can fake it at church. But you can’t fake it in your marriage.

A lot of people get into marriage and feel like they’re doing something wrong when it turns out to be harder than they expected. They feel embarrassed about struggling—especially when they haven’t been married very long.

“As Christian couples, we put a lot of pressure on ourselves to have the model marriage,” said John’s wife Stasi, who teamed up with him to write Captivating for women. “When things are rough, we feel that we should hide that and parade the good stuff without addressing the bad.”

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